This is important and he will be talking about it, so listen with a keen intensity when he does.Here is a checklist: You must be definite that he is actually getting a divorce and has not just taken a few weeks off from his marriage to "find himself" or "get space." Are papers being filed or served? Any reports of progress are a green light that he is headed in the right direction as a possible partner for you.And if you thought dating a single, uncommitted man was tough, wait till you date a divorced person!And when you’re dating someone going through a divorce, then you’ve just given new meaning to the term, ‘it’s complicated’!!!He says he needs his space and he is up and down with his emotions. Let him talk and let him settle his business and give him his space without pressure and guilt. I do indeed feel that he is backing out of the relationship --tonight when he texted me he used my first name and not the usual "sweetie". Take deep breaths and allow yourself to cry for awhile. If you take care of yourself, you will be stronger and can better handle what happens in the future.
This means that he needs to be part of a relationship drama instead of part of a relationship.
I am feeling less depressed and made it through the entire day without crying. Break-ups in general are stressful, for either party, but a divorce can impact far more than the emotions. Well I wish he would have said that 8 months ago and left out the parts where he said he loved me. We have decided that we will meet for coffee in a few weeks and see how it goes now that we are just friends. His words are shocking to say the least, I assume he has already moved on as well.
Divorces cost money, can cause stress when there are items, homes, and children involved. He is likely going through his own personal hell, right now, and he will need all the support he can get. I am really full of anxiety today and trying to hold it together. He now says he was caught up in the safety, lust and nuturing of our early relationship and that he does not love me and should not have said it. I am not interested in any other men and I really did love him, although I realize now that he could not have felt the same and changed his mind only 30 days later.
We had several great months together and he said he loved me and was making long term plans with me. And yes, this is going to be a transition time for him and that is probably a good thing for you.
Only a month after all this he is backing away, acting distant and telling me we need to sit down and have a long talk. He is closing up his old life and moving to a new life with you. I think that I am suffering from a bit of depression and it has affected how I am responding to his comments.